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March 21, 2011



ohh i wish this was steve ward, but i guess it's craig j. jackson. what a punk either way.


This guy just didn't get he was digging himself deeper, did he?
My guess is Craig Jackson, the host of I Love Money. He used to be on Channel One, and he said he'd been working since high school.

Miss Lisa

This is why it can be so scary to date straight men. Also: observational writing can bring about these kinds of situations, unfortunately. And also: he is a very sad speciman of humanity.


I think you handled that beautifully. The more rational you were in your explanations, the more he perceived it as "personal." Good luck at TV Guide! I look forward to reading your work there as well.


Enjoy your time at TVguide! Can't wait to read your stuff about something other than reality tv (do I dare to dream?).


Rich, I can't believe you'd besmirch such an obviously not-gay man in such a way. I mean, really? Repeating his own words back to him? shameful....

Now, who did this? http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Craig%20Jackson

Driver B

what a dbag.

Though the boss was right, you probably could have extracted yourself at some point, I think your responses sound measured and well-reasoned - and I would have done the same thing.


The whole "woe is me, now I'm being hit on by gays" thing pisses me off. A homophobic relative used to say the same thing about not wanting to be around certain friends of mine & it always made me seethe with anger.

Guess what? I don't like being hit on by fat slobs who are old enough to be my father, but as a straight woman that's just something I have to deal with. Unless you've got some mind-control powers you can't help who hits on you, so you might as well either stay home or wear a paper bag over your head if you're that bothered by it.

The fact that he's trying to appeal to you, an openly gay man, about how hard it is to face judgement for being possibly gay just shows how out of touch he is. I still can't figure out what kind of sympathy he expected you to have for his plight...


I had to go looking...



I have to wonder if his concern about being approached on the street by gay men, is actually just his increased exposure on a VH1 show that led more PEOPLE to approach him, gay or straight, and he was just too dumb to understand the difference.


Well-handled (and with better spelling/grammar than [redacted], I might add), Rich. Thanks for sharing this exchange and commenting on it so thoughtfully.


That dude's attitude is not cool, bro. not cool.

Although I think your brillance was lost on him, I loved your response, thanks for posting it, and can't wait to read your stuff at TV guide!!


I'm not sure how I feel about this. While I'm super proud of you for standing up for yourself, I wish you wouldn't have published this exchange. Aaaaand the negative comments about your former employer. Not because I'm on their side, more because I want you to protect yourself and (most importantly) your future. There are people out there who will judge you for this and I'd hate to see your career opportunities compromised just because some 2-bit culturally irrelevant jerkoff on a reality show (or some 2-bit culturally irrelevant jerkoff of a network who airs reality shows) got you so riled up that you felt compelled to post some smack on the internet. Even though you redacted the critical information, it won't take long for it to leak out and the consequences can be major. This kind of venting is best reserved for friends, family, and rant-filled pages in a diary with a unicorn on it. I know I'm not your mom (though I wish I was Winston's mom) and you're a grown ass man who knows what's best for you, but just wanted to say that. xoxoxo


The implication from [redacted] that being thought of as gay was the most horrible thing that could happen to a person was infuriating to me. Same for the ridiculous attitude and comments about getting "hit on" by "gay people." Newsflash, dbag: people who are secure in their own sexuality can handle being hit on by anyone, and handle it gracefully.

Also, his terrible spelling, grammar, and punctuation made me hate him regardless of the content he was spewing.

Go, Rich. Good luck in your new gig.


You, sir, are magnificent.


20 Pack really is a [redacted]. I don't blame him for the slip-up.


I loved this, Rich! I hope it DOES get out and I hope everyone learns this dude is a total butt-fucking queermo.


Wow, I THINK NOT. Wow.


Someone doth protest too much, methinks.


On an unrelated note...what will become of the RuPaul's Drag Race gif walls?

Congratulations on the new gig, though.


Uh, wow... the homophobia is strong in this one. What a huge jackass. Yeah, you could have stopped it earlier, but I also don't blame you for going on (and for your part you were measured and controlled). What an offensive piece of shit.


1) CONGRATULATIONS on 5 years of success, and best wishes for many more with your new venture.
2) My selfish request is that whatever jobs you end up taking in the future, unless the world ends, please never stop writing fourfour because I'll feel like I lost a super-cool friend even if I don't personally know you and never will!
3) Good for you for standing up for yourself. You could have just ignored the person, or stopped earlier in the exchange, but that's easier said than done, especially when you're caught up in the moment. My newest tactic for that is writing a "draft" email (or series of drafts) that I send to myself. It allows for the catharsis, and none of the repercussions. But in this case, I agree that your writing was solid, and you did a good job of making all of your points. Go RICH! Long live FourFour!


Damn, I was hoping it'd be Riki Rachtman, but that doesn't seem to be the case. I loathe that douchebag though.

Congrats on the new job Rich!


Oh, Rich...
I read all of the time and comment so seldom, but this is one of those moments when I must:

you are such an amazing combination of wit, sensitivity, guts and intellect... hats off to you, sir.


He DID have a crush on 20 Pack, though. What a clown.

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